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ABOUT DR. HARLEY –
Dr. Harley is a relationship counselor who has dedicated his career to helping couples overcome issues of empathy and understanding within their marriages. His interest in this area began when he noticed that many couples were experiencing frustration and disappointment because their partner did not prioritize the same things that they did. This led him to develop a training program designed to help individuals better meet the emotional needs of their spouses. Through his work, Dr. Harley has helped countless couples improve their relationships and achieve greater satisfaction in their marriages. He continues to be a leading expert in the field of marriage counseling.
EPISODE TOPICS:
- The Importance of Romantic Love in Marriages: “If you are in love, marriages tend to be wonderful. And if you’re not in love, marriages tend to be disappointing.” — Dr. Harley [00:07:15 → 00:07:23]
- The Challenges of Fatherhood: “I think it affects women and men in different ways, many of the men that I counsel find that having their first child creates a crisis for them. They’re not emotionally prepared for having a child interrupt their golf game or their their, friends, they they freedom that they had before, now they get up at the middle of the night. They don’t like that.” — Dr. Harley [00:20:51 → 00:21:21]
- The Impact of Children on Marriage: “The best thing you can do for your children is to love each other as a husband and wife and to be each other’s companion, be each other’s partner, live life with each other and and not abandon each other at the time that your children are being raised.” — Dr. Harley [00:23:13 → 00:23:34]
- Surviving an Affair: Dr. Harley provided a structured approach to surviving an affair [00:41:00]
- Relationship Advice: “I want you to learn how to meet that woman’s need that she has had when you were dating her through the rest of your life.” — Dr. Harley [00:46:52 → 00:47:02]
EPISODE TIME STAMPS:
00:00 Nationally acclaimed psychologist, author, marriage counselor. Practical resources.
05:44 Motivation key in marriage counseling, leads to success.
07:00 The research that led to the book theory.
10:56 Fulfilling emotional needs in marriage.
13:14 Regularly fill out emotional needs questionnaire.
18:35 Seek a coach to learn how to meet emotional needs.
22:06 Prioritize marriage for successful child-rearing.
26:43 Questionnaire identifies emotional needs and suggests solutions.
29:14 Give spouse 15 hours of weekly attention.
33:31 Entering love leads to clouded judgment, caution.
34:29 Workplace boundaries: same-sex counseling and socializing.
37:51 Challenges for single pastors in romantic relationships.
41:41 Following an Affair – Transparency, honesty, and agreement for good exposure.
44:37 Ministry husbands struggle with needy wife.
49:02 Thank you for watching and listening in.
