Leaders, so much emphasis is placed on the skills and qualities necessary to guide teams, make strategic decisions, and inspire innovation. Yet, one fundamental aspect that often goes unnoticed is the leader’s personal life, specifically their marriage. The health of this relationship can significantly impact a leader’s effectiveness, emotional well-being, and ultimately, their professional success. We have all seen or lived through the reality of leaders who have mishandled their marriages.
This worksheet is inspired by the “Emotional Needs Questionnaire” from Dr. Willard Harley, author of “His Needs, Her Needs.” In his book, Dr. Harley identifies 10 emotional needs, suggesting that five are more common in women and five in men, though the significance of each can vary. Highlighted here are four key needs: two typically seen in men and two in women.
Designed as a tool for guided conversations between spouses, this worksheet is an excellent resource to revisit every year or two as part of a relationship check-up.
It’s recommended that you and your spouse complete the worksheet independently and then come together to share your responses.The desire is for you each to learn how to better meet the needs of your spouse.
